Di wo fie asem

''Di wo fie asem'' this is a phrase often used by many Ghanaians familiar with the Asante dialect, Twi. It essentially means to mind your own business.

For some reason, minding your own business seems a bit difficult for some to comprehend. They really do struggle with the concept.
However, in a world where each and every single person should be entitled to their privacy, it shouldn't be that difficult.
From my observations, here are a few reasons why we should at least try and mind our own business:

1. It's free -  It does not cost any money to mind your own business and this is a good thing. I'm sure everyone loves free stuff.
2. It allows you to focus on yourself - once you start to mind your own business, you get to actually mind your own business and get to know yourself for a change.
3. It doesn't concern you, sometimes getting involved in others business is really unhealthy and leads to a lot of trouble.
4. You are less likely to make any enemies.
5. You become more loyal and tolerable to be around; others won't feel the need to hide from you as they trust that you won't be passing around nonsense information.
6. People may actually enjoy being around you.
7. You'll find that you have more genuine friends who won't only be interested in the gossip you have for them.

Yes, sometimes we all mean well. But there is a clear distinction between caring about someone and being 'all up in someone's business.' There's a huge difference between seeking personal information from someone because you genuinely care and seeking personal information from someone just for some petty gossip. The more individuals entangle themselves in such scandals, the more cautious they become. You'll find that they share little about themselves and don't want you to know anything about them, it's as if they are scared that others may do to them what they always do to those around them.

But the truth is, to be able to mind your own, you have to have the willingness to respect others, even if you don't like them.
We need to deter ourselves from just going forth and seeking out other people's personal information; how will finding out what you're after affect your life? Will it add any value to it?Does it actually matter whether you know that particular information or not?
If the answer to all of those questions is a resounding no, then please...di wo fie asem.

Goodnight xx