Perceptions

Let's be honest, the way that we perceive ourselves is one of the most important things in this world, simply because it influences the thought processes concerning us. Think about it, if positive thoughts generate good vibes then imagine the consequences orchestrated by our negative perceptions in relation to ourselves.

But to put simply, we can all pick up vibes; if the vibe being generated about ourselves is negative then why should we be surprised when the same vibe is put out to us from others. People can tell how we feel about ourselves, and believe me, some people will happily abuse that advantage.

What more can go wrong after others start to negatively perceive us; self hate begins which is soon followed by paranoia. It's bad enough having such a distorted perception of ourselves but we become more engaged in deciphering what everyone else thinks of us. You have to be good to you or no one else will, love you and you will feel loved.

So the lesson to be learned here is that not only do we need to make sure we perceive ourselves the right way, it is the only way we need to see ourselves. It's easier said than done especially when you have gone for so long detesting that face you see in the mirror, constantly surrounding your entire being with negative connotations. So what if you have messed up in one way or another, that shouldn't be any reason to label yourselves with that misery and stick with it your whole life. Learn to brush it of, accept it and move on in love.. In love with yourself!
Remember this, your perception needs to be positive. If you think you are beautiful, then you are. If you see yourself as successful, you are successful.

As René Descartes put it, "I think therefore I am". You'll soon learn that your input = your output !

Di wo fie asem

''Di wo fie asem'' this is a phrase often used by many Ghanaians familiar with the Asante dialect, Twi. It essentially means to mind your own business.

For some reason, minding your own business seems a bit difficult for some to comprehend. They really do struggle with the concept.
However, in a world where each and every single person should be entitled to their privacy, it shouldn't be that difficult.
From my observations, here are a few reasons why we should at least try and mind our own business:

1. It's free -  It does not cost any money to mind your own business and this is a good thing. I'm sure everyone loves free stuff.
2. It allows you to focus on yourself - once you start to mind your own business, you get to actually mind your own business and get to know yourself for a change.
3. It doesn't concern you, sometimes getting involved in others business is really unhealthy and leads to a lot of trouble.
4. You are less likely to make any enemies.
5. You become more loyal and tolerable to be around; others won't feel the need to hide from you as they trust that you won't be passing around nonsense information.
6. People may actually enjoy being around you.
7. You'll find that you have more genuine friends who won't only be interested in the gossip you have for them.

Yes, sometimes we all mean well. But there is a clear distinction between caring about someone and being 'all up in someone's business.' There's a huge difference between seeking personal information from someone because you genuinely care and seeking personal information from someone just for some petty gossip. The more individuals entangle themselves in such scandals, the more cautious they become. You'll find that they share little about themselves and don't want you to know anything about them, it's as if they are scared that others may do to them what they always do to those around them.

But the truth is, to be able to mind your own, you have to have the willingness to respect others, even if you don't like them.
We need to deter ourselves from just going forth and seeking out other people's personal information; how will finding out what you're after affect your life? Will it add any value to it?Does it actually matter whether you know that particular information or not?
If the answer to all of those questions is a resounding no, then please...di wo fie asem.

Goodnight xx

To each their own

I keep myself to myself and that's the way I like it.
If I do something, I do it for myself.
It sounds selfish but really and truly it is the way forward.
Some people worry too much about what others are doing and it often affects their decisions in life. I find this so silly and quite sad because why should your progression be based on that of others? We are not all running the same race.
At the end of the day, we were all born alone...
Don't fixate your attention on others like that. Sometimes we have to mind our own and not worry about what others are doing, you don't know Gods' plans for them.
Focus on your own life, don't do things just because your friends are doing things. If one thing suits a certain individual, that does not necessarily indicate that it would suit those who want to imitate. Similarly, when opportunities come our away, we shouldn't be so fast to pass it up because the same isn't happening for our friends; you will end up disappointed and devastated at the things you'll miss out. 
When God wrote about you and your life, He created a specific path for you and a destination for you to reach and so why must we interrupt those plans because our stories don't match up with those around us.
When you do you, you will realise that you will get to your destination faster. You'll be more fulfilled and happy, because you are not trying to force things which aren't meant to be.

Just do you, and everything will be okay.