I wish I had been advised earlier on about this, because it would have meant that I wouldn't have wasted so much time with people who weren't necessarily adding to my life or serving a good purpose.
Here's a few points to always consider:
- A large circle isn't always best; large circles from my observations often result in factions developing...sometimes it's best to keep your circle small. As your circle decreases in number, the value of your circle increases.
- Try and make a distinction between the real and the fakes as soon as possible.
This may be hard because the fake ones can be pretty good actors/actresses who are capable of fooling you and making you believe that they're genuinely your friends. At times, a particular event may need to happen in order for you realise who's genuine. When this happens it's essential that action is taken decisively. - Don't let anything surprise you. People at times can be so temporary and superficial, so I've taught myself to not allow anything to shock me any more.
- Make sure you're surrounded with honest people, i.e. discern the secret haters and let them go. People who are not honest can be seen to be forever throwing shade, they come across as unsupportive and if you do find yourself questioning their purpose as your friend, then maybe they are not honest and also not your friend.
- Non-judgemental people are loyal and will always let you know when you are right or wrong; the ways in which these characters will approach about your actions are always reasonable and no matter how sensitive you are, you will never feel that they are judging you in anyway. In fact, you will thank them for their openness and letting you know a few things about yourself. They want you to win just as bad.
- Refrain from having a "leader" within your circle, everyone should be considered as being equal, no one is of any higher authority. Dominant characters are always looking for a crowd to lead, they may seem controlling and often butt-heads with others when they feel like their views are not being accepted. Surround yourself with those who are constructive and will understand your views.
Know your circle well, remove any squares out of your circle, make sure there are only champions in your league and life should be good.
Here's a picture that I've seen being circulated on social media and I thought that it suited this post quite well.
