MY BLOG HAS MOVED!

Hi everyone.
I just wanted to let you know that I have officially transferred my blog to www.iamqueennana.wordpress.com, so go and check it out for old and new blog posts.

Lots of love x

Letting go

It's been a while, but I'm back and I'm better *Bryson Tiller voice* lool.

I've been meaning to post this for a while , and now I'm finally doing it *yay*. 

In life sometimes we just don't know when to let things go, whether it's relationships or grudges. We just seem to hold on for dear life, and some times it's just unnecessary.

Don't dwell on things for too long, sometimes you just need to let things go. Keep it moving!
Whatever it is that's bothering you, it's not permanent. Nothing is permanent these days anyways, everything is temporary.
Whatever problems you have, let go and let God deal with it. What do you gain from holding on? You don't know what blessings and opportunities that you are blocking, just because it's always less challenging when you have that little something to hold on to. I think sometimes, it's just comforting, it gives us a reason to act a certain way when in reality, we stunt our growth, we end up pushing others away and we miss out on life because we want to be "comfortable". 

Letting go does not equate to failure or giving up. In fact, it is not a sign of weakness. It is merely liberation and it demonstrates the confidence that you have to step out. Letting go is essentially freedom, freedom from self and freedom from the negative obligations attached to whatever  was holding you back. There's always a greater benefit to letting go. You just have to make up your mind to see the potential benefit first.

Sometimes, letting go can be painful especially when it involves releasing friends. A part of you feels as though the memories and the good times are gone, but it's okay. Not everyone was created to be in your life for ever. Some people came into your life for a lesson, to give you an experience (good or bad) and to facilitate your growth and maturity into whatever you were created for. However, when you keep some people in your life, far longer than needed, they become toxic. For example, it's like a women being pregnant for 40 weeks, it becomes toxic and unsafe the longer the baby stays past the due date. You may argue that a few weeks isn't that bad, but the longer the baby stays, the more complicated the birthing gets. Fine, some people don't get to choose when the baby comes out, but can you say no to the Dr. that has recommended a set date and time for the caesarian?  The same applies to toxic friendships and relations, don't let them over stay their time in your life. Learn to let go when the time goes. Not only will it create more room for healthier friendships and relationships to blossom, but you'll gain happiness and become more positive. Positivity is good for the mind and the soul. 

Let go of those petty grudges ,it's easier said than done, but we all need to learn to move on, and sometimes, the only way to do so is to invite God in.

Let go, and let God.

The choice is yours, so what's it going to be? Will you hold on or let go?
I'd like to finish off by sharing a song that best sums this up :)

My Bible challenge for 2016

Happy new year everyone, I hope that you're all having a positive start to the year so far.

I just wanted to share the Bible challenge that I've set for myself this year. I think that reading the Bible is very important for someone who wants to develop their faith further, hence why one of my new years resolutions is to read the Bible more often. The details of my Bible challenge can be found below.Throughout the year, I may write blog posts to provide an update about how my Bible challenge is going.

I would like to encourage anyone who is trying to develop in their faith to set themselves a personal Bible challenge for the year, or use the Bible app to find a Bible challenge. I think it would be an amazing step to take, so definitely try it out.

2015, what a year!

I know it's a bit early to start reflecting on 2015, as there a a few more weeks left but this is the most convenient time for me to write.2015, has been a such a mad year! One word to sum up 2015 would definitely be wow. I personally feel that 2015 was an emotional roller-coaster. There were plenty of ups and downs, but I the ups always topped the downs. God has blessed me in so many ways this year, the list is far too long
2015 has been a year of realisation indeed. I've lost many friends but life goes on I guess. I've met and gotten to know some amazing people who have made more of a positive impact in my life than some people that I've know for years. What a wow! But on a brighter note, those friends who stayed by my side this year definitely deserve a round of applause. Their support for me has been immense this year and I don't think I'd be able to cope this year without them.
Most importantly, in 2015 I realised that the most important thing is to better myself on a spiritual level and improve my relationship with God. As soon as this became my focus everything seemed to get better and better. My main aim in 2015 was to obtain inner peace, and I think I'm going along the right path. In order to continue along this road to inner peace, I need to continue to surround my myself with positive and successful people. I need to surround myself and interact with people who will bring out the best in me, not those drain me of my positive energy.

2015 has taught me a lot. Here are the four major lessons that I learnt.

1. Not to cross rivers for people who wouldn't even jump puddles for me.
2. What other people think of me is none of my business.
3. Anyone trying to bring me down is already below me.
4. Be careful who you vent to. A listening ear can also be a gossiping mouth.

I think the biggest lesson of 2015 is to trust in God always. God didn't bring you this far just to turn His back on you. Don't be silly. God will always have your back no matter what.
This Bible verse perfectly sums up my point.

Philippians 1:6 being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

In 2016, I would like to hopefully try out new things and meet more new people. I appreciate all the love and support from everyone who's read my blog posts, so in 2016 I would  like to continue developing my blog and build it into something bigger and better.Perhaps in 2016 I'll finally learn how to  ride a bike, who knows. I just hope that 2016 will be a good year for me. A year filled with  love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22).

This picture perfectly sums up my mood for 2016:

But this is definitely my main mood:

My ultimate aim for 2016 is to be happy and continue to win, after all winning is in my DNA and I am too blessed to be a loser. I know where I started and I know where I am going. I'm getting closer to my dream, so I must persevere and have enough faith in myself to not give up.
Most importantly I will continue to work on myself, by myself.

I hope everyone has a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year xx

Happy people aren't haters, and those who hate aren't happy

So, basically I'm tired.
I'm just tired of seeing people hating on others just because they're being blessed.
If you're someone who does that, locate your chill button as soon as possible because the hate is super unnecessary.
Just because your neighbour is being blessed doesn't mean your season isn't coming up. Surely if your neighbour is reaping blessings then that means blessings are in your neighbourhood right? Be patient, your time will come.
As I always say "haters are my motivators," and that's a fact. I'm not even trying to sound cliché but, it goes without say really, negativity will always motivate others to want to do better.
Often at times, just as I'm about to give up, I stop and remember that quitting literally takes me steps away from how far I've come and how close I am to my goal. When and how will I ever win if I quit too early? No, actually, how will I reach anything if I quit in general?
But I'll let you in on a little secret, especially if you always feel your light dwindles based on other people's achievements. Make a note of this: jealousy is an ugly trait!
I don't know about you but I can never hate on anyone, even if I wanted to! I'm not even trying to sound pretentious or boastful, but I enjoying supporting others, especially if they are my friends because I know how hard-working they are. Regardless whether you'll get the same love back, we shouldn't give on the basis of receiving.
And on that note, I'll remind you again to celebrate others and don't let others' envy rule you.

Just remember those who hate aren't happy and those who are happy don't hate. God bless xx

Regrets

Hey everyone, I know I've been absent lately and  haven't written but that's because I've been so busy with life. Nevertheless, I'm back upon a special request from a friend who wanted me to just write something. I decided to just do something different, and write a blog post that is centred on me (lol, selfish- I know!). I've simply compiled a list  about some of the things that I regret doing/not doing. 

I regret not putting my own happiness before everyone else's.
I regret being nice to everyone. Sometimes it's like my kindness gets taken for granted, and I'm not appreciated. I can be nice to people, and instead of them returning the kindness they choose to be rude or give me attitude. It's really not necessary, lol like wyd?
I regret seeing the best in people, *sigh* turns out seeing the best in people is not really a two way street in this world. People have disappointed me and that is ok, I'm doing fine *laughing uncomfortably turns to hysterical weeping*. But for real though, I continue to see the best in people and try make sense of their circumstances.
I regret not taking up every single opportunity placed before me, simply because I felt those opportunities weren't for me. They may have actually been good for me but because I've missed those opportunities, I'll never know. However, that hasn't stopped me from creating some of these missed opportunities for myself.
I sometimes regret being a messy, shady and petty person. Keyword 'sometimes,' other times it can be fun *sips tea*
I regret letting people get to me. No one, I repeat no-one, is worth the stress.
I regret opening up to so many "friends" who turned out to be snakes.
I don't regret staying true to myself. I'm so glad I haven't become one of those people who change in order to "fit in"
I don't regret being "comfy on my ones." It has allowed me to grow into a strong independent woman *flicks hair*
I don't regret creating this blog, it has allowed me to inspire a few people *wipes tear*
I don't regret being me. It's the only thing I can be, and trust me I do it very well.


Thanks for taking time out to read this, have a blessed night xx

Inner peace

Inner peace was once defined as the "moment you choose to not allow a person or event control your emotions". 

Lets identify the keyword here: choose

You can always, I repeat always make the conscious decision to allow yourself not to be affected by the things around you. Its' easier said than done but inner peace is an achievable goal and many steps can be taken to achieve this desired inner peace.
Firstly, you can choose to not allow the stresses of everyday life and the negative energies surrounding you consume you. Simply because, just as we learnt in science, although energy cannot be created, it can be transferred. So how best to avoid being contaminated with negative energy...well, you simply move away from it.  I cannot stress how important inner peace is, it actually puts things into perspective and adds some balance to life.

I don't know about you, but for me personally, inner peace comes second in my list of importance, after positive self image.
Above all, inner peace is highly ranked by me because I just feel that I can't function as I'm meant to when I'm not at peace with myself. Where some people aim to be at peace with others, I wonder how anyone can prioritise that when they don't have inner peace. It's a bit like love right? How can you love others when you lack the ability to love yourself. There's a reason why in the Bible it says to love others as yourself and not the other way around.
Yes, being selfless should be the epitome of being a great human being, but let me assure you, it is okay to be selfish sometimes. Appropriate selfishness is something we need to learn to do, it's been a while but I'm still trying to teach myself this. From my observations, I cannot please everyone or keep everyone happy. Truth is, I am not responsible for other people's happiness; the only person whom I am responsible for keeping happy is myself. But that does come with limits. Remember what I said earlier about appropriate selfishness, well in some instances if something such as stealing a bike will make me happy, that does not mean it is right to do so, because that would make me inconsiderate to the one I stole from. Learn to make yourself happy where it counts, yes you're responsible for your happiness but your happiness should not have the intention of making others miserable.

So, to round this up, the common denominator in all of this is you. Your inner peace and  your happiness are all about you and the acceptance of yourself for who you are and working to achieve a better, more peaceful and happy you. 

Food for thought: "Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without."